[As I Quote Tuesday] On Love and Friendship

“Love is an extremely close friendship. – Enrique
Geum, Flower Boy Next Door”

Love has been defined in bazillions of ways, by bazillions of people, from the Bible to philosophers to variety of authors, egoistic, realists and narcissists but so far, what I quoted is one definition that I love among others. It’s touching, pure, and somehow complicated but actually not.

Love could be anything, in fact love is universal; it’s also a bond and the closeness that’s established through love is a gift, a priceless one. Such is a bond with true or extremely close friends. Distance can’t erase it, nor could time because the bond that’s sewn together is by far sturdier than both distance and time.

Why the sentiments? I don’t have any idea, well I might; alright I do. I have a few of that kind of friends, those that could guess or know what I’m up to and could put up with my never ending rants as well as my sarcasm. I can say that our friendship is somewhat extreme because I know myself and it’s pretty hard to put up with me like I always say. Maybe because I’m starved of affection or something, sometimes I don’t really understand too but I know; it’s hard to get through someone like me.

Currently, I am far away with those friends, so freakishly far. And we don’t get to talk often; well we have each our own lives to live plus I am sort of straying from some social media specifically Facebook and time differences, it’s a total disaster. But I know that they remember me as much as I remember them and that if ever we get time to talk, there’s no adjustment that needs to be done. When we get that chance to talk again, it’s just picking up where we left off and it’s always as fun as I can ever remember.

I guess that could be classified as loving, I am not positively sure. I’ve been looking at that angle for quite some time now and I am still not certain about it. The only love that I am certain about currently is familial, and most of my “I love you” nowadays is from my 1st brother (yes, we say “I love you” to each other before hanging up) which is also quite unexpected especially because we grew up hating each other (or I hated him because he was mother’s favorite which she insist that it isn’t so) and fighting like cats and dogs, I guess things change when you get older, well, most of it.

Flower Boy Next Door, a Review

I recently finished watching Flower Boy Next Door and I was completely smitten! I have an idea I am going to enjoy it because it’s a Romantic Comedy and I am a sucker for rom-coms (no kidding I love rom-coms) but I never imagine I would enjoy it this much.

What the babble’s about?

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A copy editor (Go Dok-mi portrayed by Park Shin-hye) who dislikes going out of her apartment (she who is somewhat agoraphobic, heh); she takes peeps on her neighbor not so far across the street (with her yellow binoculars) whom she saw and fell in love at first sight with on that fall day that she last went out her apartment. Her carton of milk that’s delivered daily has post it with drawings in it, drawn by her next door neighbor who happens to have the hots for her for the last 3 years, (Oh Jin-rak portrayed by Kim Ji-hoon) a webtoon artist who created a webtoon called “Zombie Soccer” with his drawing partner (Yoo Dong-hoon portrayed by Go Kyung-pyo). The said webtoon was never published because it is said to plagiarized a video game created by Enrique Geum (portrayed by Yoon Shi-yoon) a game developer from Spain, a fun loving guy who seems to be high on coffee and red bull (he could annoy you to death but he’s too cute to not get away with it) who happens to be cousins with the neighbor from across the street that Dok-mi peeps on. With it being rejected and as he saw his drawing of Go Dok-mi, Oh Jin-rak made an impromptu story, the context being a modern day Rapunzel, a girl trapped in her own apartment and was rescued (drawn out) by her next door neighbor with the title “Flower Boy Next Door.” What he came up with managed to convince their Editor (Kim Seul-gi).

When Enrique arrived in Seoul to “shoot Cupid’s arrow”he stays at his cousin’s place and caught Miss copy editor Dok-mi in the act of peeping and the rest is history, or more on a turmoil to Dok-mi’s peaceful world.

Initial Reaction

This drama is one of those dramas that I’ve downloaded earlier on my addiction for Korean Dramas. I happen to read the recap of the first episode at Dramabeans and it sparked my interest that prompted me to take the time to watch it. It was an awesome choice. First few minutes in and I was itching with curiosity: “is she OC, what’s with the post its, recyclables and potted plant indoors?” Honestly, I was hoping there’s a cat, if there was then my theory that she’s a cat lady could have clicked. 😀

Then these came up:

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It was a big sold and the marathon began.

What lingered? (Pardon the Spoiler)

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Go Dok-mi – her sad high school ordeal that pushed her to lock herself in her own world and not to trust anyone with herself, the journal entries that expresses what she really feels no matter how much she tries to avoid it, her acceptance and warming up to Enrique, the confrontation with her best friend turned bully Cha Do-hwi. I marveled at the significant growth of the heroine, how she managed to step out of her shell, it is remarkable although I have to admit that if a guy as insistent as chatty and hyperactive (don’t forget cuteness, I’m all for the fuzz, I love anything full of fuzz and warmth that I basically go gaga over them) as the hero comes bugging me to step out of my apartment, I definitely would.

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Enrique Geum – the bouncing panda, the talk until you drop then end it with an aegyo that melts my brain and my heart and leaves me squeeing, the suave lines that makes me wish was said to me. For me, Yoon Shi-yoon owned this character, the way he portrayed it is amazing. And I can understand why the heroine fell for his character, because under the cheerfulness, the uber sunny disposition, there’s something that people around him are not aware of, something that he can only share with his Ahjumma. And although they have different defense mechanisms, underneath they are both hurt by something similar and is looking for that one person that can understand them.

Can you hear me – I love how Dok-mi and Que-Geum can hear each others thoughts, reminds me of Banana’s in pajamas; are you thinking of what I am thinking of B1? It’s bizarre, the way they can have that one sided yet full conversation.

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Oh Jin-rak, Yoo Dong-hoon and Editor – I can’t help but laugh whenever these people share scenes together, they are hilarious but not clichéd. I love that Dong-hoon got his dream girl in the Editor and vice versa. As for Jin-rak, poor slow and unenergized Jin-rak, I wanted to feel for him, seriously, I want to pity him but I just can’t. He wasted years just watching from the sideline,overthinking (not that I am not guilty with that) and plotting that he lost his chance all together. Well, at least he had the money at the end, that’s what happens in real life, if you’re crappy with your love life, you’re good at your job. If that’s not the case then I would have to ask “what are you doing with your life?”

The Soundtrack – I loved the soundtrack, I downloaded the song and I have this on repeat currently:

It would be fun if I could date him, WISH!

I Brushed Off

Cha Do-hwi – well maybe because I hated her, whatever. The whole time she’s on screen I wanted to yell at her that it’s not all about her, stop making it such a big deal about the teacher because there’s nothing in there. I hated all the fur too but hey, what do I know about fashion anyways.

Tae-joon & Yoon Seo-young affair – I didn’t get it. I re-watched that part too but I just didn’t get it. If they were not getting together anyways then why? I dunno what that was about, Que-Geum liked Seo-young, she like Tae-joon; Que-geum is giving way but why aren’t they getting together? Too busy being noble? Hmmm..

Obsessed Fangirl  – yes, I understand you’re a fan, I am a fan too but I have a life, get your own, don’t be too obsessed about your idol, he has his own life aside from gaming you know.

Que-Geum, to leave or not to leave; Dok-mi the noble – this was the painful part to watch. Why can’t they just talk anyways, that’s possible right? Open communication, face to face conversation. Well I guess I have to accept the fact that noble idiocy is a part of K-dramaland, period.

Those Captured Moments

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Any scene that involves playing with kids is a winner for me.

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Yes, I panic about pets too, this is a cute way to be embarrassed, I liked the second hand embarrassment though if it was me, I would have talked to him. (Fine, I’ll admit it, Yoon Shi-yoon is my newest bias.)

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If I happen to have them as my neighbors, I would definitely attend any gathering or meeting that the owner comes up with.

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Que-Geum at his element, oh you puppy.

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This is one of the sweetest moment of the drama, it’s cute and fuzzy, I love this puppy.

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The three musketeer, after all the planning, it’s an epic fail but the bromance covered for it.

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How a hyperactive person feels once that person is cooped up all day long.

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The reversal that made her realized how much he likes (loves) him.

Conclusion

All in all, I’m very satisfied with this drama and I would gladly recommend it to anyone who would ask for my suggestion. Not just because of the warm and fuzzy but more on because of the good story line.

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Rating

9 out of 10

[As I Quote Tuesday] On Unrequited Love

“How timid and frail is unrequited love? A place you entered of your own accord, but you’re trapped inside, unable to find an exit. He doesn’t know a thing, and could one day leave my line of sight, and the love ends passively. A love that does not bloom flowers and thus cannot dream of bearing fruit, a love like a seed that is forgotten. That is unrequited love.” – Go Dok-mi, Flower Boy Next Door”

Unrequited love is a term that I’ve always heard being mentioned in K-Dramaland, in fact, I think most of the dramas that I’ve watched have characters mentioning about their unrequited loves but the most profound description that I’ve encountered so far is in Flower Boy Next Door. The way Go Dok-mi (portrayed by Park Shin-hye) described unrequited love is so on the spot, the simile sad yet true, oh so true. Knowing the truth about it though, I can’t help but ask, is there a way to avoid it especially because you’re completely aware that it is not gonna bear fruits anyway, so why not avoid it as it comes, or as you feel it?

I did have an answer, “you wish!” Yes, I’m talking to myself and that’s what the other side of me answered. Feelings as I’ve experienced and studied is not something that you can turn on and off like a switch or a faucet that you can open when you want to use and close when you’re done using it. Loving is involuntary, it’s not something you can control even if it just started from mere admiration.

I’ve had my own share of unrequited love; it happened a long, long time ago, but I can still remember him and my embarrassment when he found out about how I felt. Well, there was no outright rejection or something but let’s just say everything was blown out of proportion and he became a proud dude nearing to the jerk type. Thinking about it now, it’s kinda hilarious and the embarrassment part seems subtler than when it really happened. Ah, the memories, I wonder if he still remembers though, I think he’s my friend in facebook, LOL!

If I learned anything from that time it’s to take courage and never be in that situation again, an outright no is way easier to accept and live with than a futile gazing from afar that goes nowhere and might end into something embarrassing and painful.

What to Value

“Was I not enough? Even though it was just the two of us, I was okay with just you. Better than having ten or a hundred other friends, I was perfectly happy with just you. – Go Dok-mi, Flower Boy Next Door”

I’ve placed value on quality over quantity pretty early in my life. I never really cared that much if I had more as long as I have what I deserve, well except for coffee, that’s a different story, I can never have enough of coffee and that’s completely irrelevant.

I was touched (I mean completely and unutterably) by this line from Flower Boy Next Door, and the way that it was delivered, I cried with Go Dok-mi (played by Park Shin-hye,) she broke my heart. That’s precisely how I look at friendship now, after a few grave mistakes that I learned a lot from, I realized more than what I already know, that quality is indeed more valuable than quantity.

There was a time that I was trying so hard to have friends, like tried really hard and looking back now, I laugh at myself. Why the effort? Why the extra mile? Thinking about it now, I see how laughable I was for trying so hard to fit in a surrounding that was not ready for a different person like me. Thankfully I woke up before I ruined myself and I accepted the fact that I will always be different and it is absolutely fine.

After that time of struggling to belong, as I grew older and mingled with people, I met those very few people that stayed and became part of my life as my friends, a rare few. Rare because I’ve established that I’m different, the things I like, what I do, what I’m into, let’s say I kind of violate the norm. And I will be forever grateful to those rare few for staying, for understanding and putting up with a nutcase like me. They are enough, in actuality they are more than enough and I am perfectly happy with just those rare few.

Now if you’re willing to put up with the same thing that they are putting up with, you’re welcome and I’ll gladly call you a friend and believe me, I may be a nutcase, but I know how to value people, the same way those rare few values me.